It is easy to assume things. We assume what people are thinking. We assume other people's intentions. We assume that we know what we are doing. But in the end you know what happens when you assume? Nothing good.
I had a chance to be put in a position where I was assuming what someone was up to. I was really torn trying to decide of they were telling me truth. I wanted to believe them, but I began to assume that they could not be since they seem to always fall in that area. They were adamant that they were on the right path and telling me the honest truth. I feared otherwise.
What did I learn? That they were telling the truth and that they needed to be given the chance to prove themselves. How else will any of us learn and grow if we are not given the chance to succeed or fail? Yes, they might be lying. Give them the chance to stand tall or hang themselves. How else would we grow into adulthood and know firsthand pitfalls and correct decision making?
When someone you love and trust begins to second guess you and doubt you, you begin to doubt yourself. You second guess your decisions and actions. You become so dependent on others that you cannot seem to find your own way in life. Parents will not always be there for us. Elders in our family and community will not always be around. Friends will not be there every time you need them. There will come a time when you have to grow up. And I need to let them. No matter who they are.
My children have to learn that they will have to make decisions in life and face the consequences of those decisions. More immature people in my life will have to realize that they need to become mature and my interference will not help them in any way.
How do I help them? In reality, I need to grow more and obtain more Godly wisdom. When I do that, they will seek me out instead of me interfering in their lives. They will look for advice because I do not push it on them. They will seek my counsel because it is not mine but Someone higher.
Assuming does not get us anywhere. It only hinders our journey through life. Trust and acceptance have to be the key.
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